Saturday, June 27, 2009

Haters to the left Haters to the right...

Jealous- feeling or showing envy of someone or their achievements and advantages :
example: he grew jealous of her success.

One of the things that I have began to notice is that Haters are more prominent in our lives than we think they are. The problem is not when you have a of haters the problem is when the haters appear in your family or inner circle. You find yourself stifling your joy in front of them to avoid their snide comments about your success or dreams. I'v always heard my brother say that he keeps his grass trimmed so he can see the snakes in his yard (or something of the sort) but how then do you deal when the snakes reside in your house. DO you risk exposing them to be banished. In watching the Jackson 5 Story I wonder if Joe Jackson was jealous of his sons because of all the opportunities that they were afforded that he never had. All of us have been jealous of someone at one point of time or another in our lives, but do you allow the jealousy to overpower your lives to where every statement is to belittle some one else then it's to reevaluate your life.

Definition of a ‘Hater’ by Maya Angelou
A hater is someone who is jealous and envious and spends all
their time trying to make you look small so they can look tall.
They are very negative people to say the least. Nothing is ever
good enough! When you make your mark, you will always attract some
haters…That’s why you have to be careful with whom you share your
blessings and your dreams, because some folk can’t handle seeing you
blessed…

It’s dangerous to be like somebody else…

If God wanted you to be like somebody else, He would have given
you what He gave them! Right? You never know what people have gone
through to get what they have.

The problem I have with haters is that they see my glory, but
they don’t know my story… If the grass looks greener on the other side
of the fence, you can rest assured that the water bill is higher there
too!

We’ve all got some haters among us! People envy you because you can:

Have a relationship with God
Light up a room when you walk in
Start your own business
Tell a man / woman to hit the curb (if he / she isn’t about the right thing)
Raise your children without both parents being in the home

Haters can’t stand to see you happy, Haters will never want to
see you succeed, Haters never want you to get the victory, most of our
haters are people who are supposed to be on our side. How do you handle
your undercover haters?

You can handle these haters by:

1. Knowing who you are & who your true friends are *(VERY IMPORTANT!!)
2. Having a purpose to your life? Purpose does not mean having a job.
You can have a job and still be unfulfilled. A purpose is having
a clear sense of what God has called you to be. Your purpose is not
defined by what others think about you.
3. By remembering what you have is by divine prerogative and not
human manipulation. Fulfill your dreams!

You only have one life to live…when it’s your time to leave this earth,
you ‘want’ to be able to say, ‘I’ve lived my life and fulfilled
‘my’ dreams,… Now I’m ready to go HOME! When God gives you favor, you can
tell your haters, Don’t look at me…Look at Who is in charge of me…’

Maya Angelou

It's hard discovering that members in your family seek to belittle you in your face or behind your back. Often times they don't even view it as criticism they view it as "Constructive Criticism, but the key is that COnstructive criticism has a positive aspect to it. If all your hearing is negativity then chances are they've been but by the hater bug.

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